Our Story
We Were Not Prepared Either.
We walked into our first marriages with the blessing of our churches and the confidence that God had ordained what we were building. We were wrong — or more accurately, we were misled. Spiritual authority was misused. Warnings were withheld. And when everything collapsed, the same community that had blessed the beginning went quiet.
What followed was years of legal battles, financial devastation, faith crisis, and the slow, hard work of rebuilding identity, trust, and family. We made every mistake in the book. We paid for most of them.
After the Altar is what we wish had existed. Practical. Honest. Rooted in faith without being naive about pain. Written for the Christian who is tired of being told to "just pray about it" when what they actually need is a roadmap.
We're not therapists. We're not attorneys. We're two people who survived this — together — and decided to document everything so the next person doesn't have to figure it out alone.
"The altar where vows were made. The altering that changed everything. Both are true. Both are held here."